Episode Thirty Six

What Builds Confidence in a Child?

May 15th 2014

  • Make Them Work For It!

    by Jen

    My parents made me work for everything I ever had. Be it chores, errands, you name it, I somehow earned everything I had. I even had to pay for my own college. I grew up with the confidence to get any…

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    May 25th

  • I'm enough, and so are you!

    by Don

    I didn't have warm, nurturing parents. I got my confidence from my amazing grandparents. They loved me unconditionally, whereas with my parents--I'd never be good enough. The lesson that has helped me…

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    Jul 11th

  • Show me. Don't tell me.

    by Nancy

    After my divorce both my 12-yr-old daughter and I were quite devastated. Confidence wasn't anywhere on our radar. Survival was our most important goal. What I didn't realize, however, was that through…

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    Jun 18th

  • Yes, No and Discipline

    by Diana

    My father was a great teacher in our lives. We were 7 women and one brother but he made sure we were not going to grow up becoming vain people. He stressed to us the importance of learning how to say…

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    Jun 14th

  • Putting up awards they receive so they can seethem

    by Tamara

    I was a single mother who went to college and sent both of my children to college. My son has his Theology degree and is currently working on his Masters degree. My daughter is an Elementary teacher.…

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    Jun 13th

  • A few simple actions will fuel a child's confidenc

    by Judy 2

    This is a good topic for me. I was a child with courage, and I wanted to participate in different things. I would make attempts, make a mistake and as everyone has experienced; ridiculed by classmates…

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    Jun 11th

  • Confidence is Learned

    by Karen

    I believe that confidence is learned when a young child feels valued. It is learned when you support failures as well as success. Think of it like this: you clap your hands when your baby stacks a block…

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    Jun 10th

  • Love language

    by SK

    If my inner child were to speak up, she would say, "don't blame me for being born. You decided and it was your choice to have me so take responsibility for your choices." There are parents out there that…

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    Jun 8th

  • what builds confidence in a child

    by Nancy

    My parents always communicated with us. And trusted us. There was always the utmost respect for them, and a tremendous amount of love. Ive tried to carry on those things with my 3 children as well, and…

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    Jun 7th

  • You Can Do Anything

    by Joyce

    I have 3 wonderful adult kids and 4 awesome grandkids! I believe in building a child up to love who he or she is, then being there to add as many confidence-buildling skills as possible. That means being…

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    Jun 6th

  • THE GIFT OF CONFIDENCE

    by SANE-JAY

    BOTH OF MY DAUGHTERS WERE RAISED TO BELIEVE IN MAKING A FUTURE AND INDEPENDENCE. BOTH WERE SHY AND ALSO BULLIED AT SCHOOL. EVERY DAY I WOULD WORK WITH THEM TO GAIN CONFIDENCE AND ACT OUT EXAMPLES WHERE…

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    Jun 6th

  • Piece of Wisdom

    by Vicky

    I am a 35 year old woman who lacked confidence as a child. One thing I feel builds confidence is encouragement. Secondly letting a child know they are their own unique individual with strength and weaknesses…

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    Jun 5th

  • Programming a Child for Success

    by Amatullah

    Starting from day one you have to be there for your child, that's where trust comes in.Being able to depend on his caregiver is a must. The child is taught how to do things by himself and learns how to…

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    Jun 4th

  • Building Confidence Through Acrylic Painting

    by John

    Unlike many other extracurricular activities like sports, dance and musical instruments, there is no right or wrong way to do a painting. Painting builds confidence in kids by empowering them to make…

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    Jun 3rd

  • 3 different individuals

    by Karen

    I have three kids that are grown now: 2 boys 1 girl. I have always participated in their interests. I always gave them encouragement when they felt they couldnt do it...sports, clarinet, drawing, dancing,…

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    May 31st

  • It's About Acceptance!

    by Susan

    When a child knows that he is acceptable as himself, he has the beginnings of the courage necessary to do difficult things that build confidence. When a child knows that he is unacceptable unless he becomes…

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    May 30th

  • How I tried to Build Confidence in my Children

    by Gina

    We were poor, so I wasn't able to provide my three girls with the best clothes, or the expensive sneakers to bolster their self esteem, so I worked with what I had. I spent a great deal of time with them…

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    May 29th

  • Give kids the opportunity to build confidence!

    by Jane

    Most kids are born with some distinct ability for music or sports or mechanical hands on capabilities. Not every parent recognizes these early on in the development of the child. They are pretty much…

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    May 28th

  • Humor as a state of Grace

    by Barbara

    My father and I always had the same sense of humor. Sometimes, right out of the blue, he would tilt his head back and gaffaw over some off-handed comment I made. We "got" each other that way, it was our…

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    May 27th

  • My son-terror, separation, love, praise,confidence

    by Retired Military Woman

    I was active duty when I had my son. He was only a few months old and he had had a few surgeries already for problems when he was born and.. then war broke out and I had to leave. My son had bad separation…

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    May 25th


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