Episode Seventeen

Nesting

January 24th 2013

  • I opened my heart and my home

    by Meghan

    I dated a guy that had been my friend for a number of years. He was 23, I was 20. Things were fine for the first two months, but suddenly, he became a totally "different" person. I wouldn't find out until…

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    Apr 11th

  • SHE JUST DIED

    by Andrew

    Three months after my wife died, I met a lady that 'helped me forget' the pain. It was PURELY a FWB thing, she was well aware of it from the FIRST TIME SHE STAYED THE NIGHT. I missed my wife, but I am…

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    Sep 4th

  • 'Til debt do us part

    by John

    I would agree that sometimes a woman's "need to nest" does outweigh her good judgement. Maybe it is intended to be good judgement. I mean let's face it, women don't go into these relationships to be treated…

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    Mar 5th

  • Low Self-Esteem

    by Coree

    I think some of the reasons why women are in disastrous relationships is because they never had a good father figure and a good father is VERY important in a little girl's life. A father is there for…

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    Feb 20th

  • Nesting - Lack of Parental Guidance

    by Ruth

    My many experiences with men and poor judgment more likely has been connected to my lack of parental guidance: a weak male figure, a disconnected, dysfunctional and emotionally stunted family. My parents…

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    Feb 19th

  • Bad Nesting

    by Michelle

    When I met Mark he was working, paying his bills, taking me out and fixing things around the house for me (without my having to ask him). Shortly after we started dating, he moved in. Shortly after that,…

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    Feb 18th

  • Victim of Suicide

    by Tricia

    At the age of 19 my stepfather (who had raised me from the age of 3), called me on the phone and pulled the trigger of the gun, killing himself as I begged him not to. I immediately turned to drugs and…

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    Feb 18th

  • Lost Puppy Syndrome

    by Nancy

    I don't think it's so much nesting as the fact that men tend to make appeals to a woman's instinct to help those who are down on their luck. I think we also tend to think that our actions will make us…

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    Feb 17th

  • Nesting about took over.

    by C.C.

    It's like every girls story except his cheating made me think twice. Meet a guy started paying for his child support, bailed him out of court a few times. Then I found the real reason he wanted me in…

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    Feb 17th

  • Single and HAPPY!!

    by June

    When I was in my 20's, I had the extreme urge to "nest" as Judge Judy says. Well, I never found Mr. Right. Now at the age of 46, I am so happy that I never compromised on what I wanted. I didn't marry…

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    Feb 16th

  • Protect yourself

    by Kathy

    I feel if someone you start dating cant "hold their own" then they aren't worth a serious relationship. I was in a relationship for a few years when my boyfriend asked "Why dont you apply for a credit…

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    Feb 13th

  • Being loved should never cost you a cent!

    by Jenni

    Fresh out of high school I started living with my then boyfriend. He was several years older than me and a real mess. I was about 18 and he was 34 and at the time the age difference turned me on because…

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    Feb 6th

  • Just Noticing...

    by Stacey

    I don't have an experience to share just a general observation. First, why help out a guy and pay all his bills? Really by doing this you are asking for trouble. You are not this man's mother/family.…

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    Feb 6th

  • I've got the T-shirt

    by Anne N.

    I think there are a myriad of reasons why women do this. There's still a pressure to find a man, any man, and "settle down". Many women go on rescue missions with guys with serious financial or legal…

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    Feb 5th

  • Shopping Without Your List

    by Joanne

    After a lifetime of dating or marrying Mr. Wrong; after being abused, fleeing to Women's Shelters, and being stripped of all dignity and finances; it occured to me that I should make a list of the qualities…

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    Feb 5th

  • What is 'nesting'?

    by Vanessa

    I agree with Judy...I have watched the mistakes of many woman as well as made a few of my own. I think women have instincts men do not, but I do however believe those instincts to "nest" were meant to…

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    Feb 4th

  • Nesting for 22 years

    by Sandra

    Hi Judy! I've always wondered why some women make bad choices when it comes to men also! But I think you nailed it on the head. Nesting is a great word and I understand what you mean by it. I understand…

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    Feb 4th

  • Equal rights

    by Tom

    Women all over the world quite rightly want equal rights, and to be treated as equals. I think if a woman is daft enough to not see what's going on under her nose then more fool her. If it was a guy I…

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    Feb 4th

  • Attracted to Losers

    by G.L.

    I don't give guys money, but I do pick guys that never make anything of themselves. I do not know why I think that a guy who is kind and gentle, or has a sense of humor, or is good with kids, or is involved…

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    Feb 3rd

  • Nesting retort

    by Nebula

    I do not identify with nesting, but I knew many woman/girls that have. I couldn't understand it, especially when the man leaves, decides to come back only for the woman to get hurt. However, I was in…

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    Feb 3rd

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