Episode Twenty-One

Is Fair Always Equal?

March 21st 2013

  • is fair always equal

    by Andrew

    Often times the "reading of the will" in the lawyer's office is a Hollywood fantasy. Seeing heirs wiggle when they find out they are getting nothing is a delight. I have had more joy from animals than…

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    Dec 19th

  • equal distribution

    by Joan

    What children care about is the love and embrace they have felt through their lives. If they have felt loved, they will not be particularly interested in the equality of their inheritance. I have truly…

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    Jul 25th

  • Unfair distribution

    by J

    My mother in law, on her deathbed announced to her two sons that they wouldn't be inheriting anything. All her money and assets were going to her unmarried daughter. Granted she could have used most of…

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    Jul 21st

  • Whats Fair

    by Karen

    This was just a discussion the other day...When your parents are alive it is up to them how they feel they should share their money they earned with each individual child (many forget it's not their money…

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    Jul 21st

  • Do you have the option?

    by Wanda

    I believe that you should definately take the needs of all your children into consideration in your will. However, in a second marriage it is difficult to work that out with your spouse. Thus having to…

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    Jul 10th

  • Equal is fair

    by Bobbie

    We love our children equally, so we should leave them our assets equally, regardless of whether one is more financially successful than the other. Doing otherwise would likely cause resentment and family…

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    Jul 10th

  • Is Fair always Equal

    by Sheri

    My Mother divided her estate equally between 4 children. We were fortunate that we all get along. Of course some children will always be better off than another, but because her estate was equally divided…

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    Jul 10th

  • Avoid jealousy

    by Laura

    To show that all children were equally loved by you and avoid any feelings of jealousy that you cannot stop after you are gone ("No, no Johnnie. I loved you just as much as Billie. He just needed it more."…

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    Jul 10th

  • What is Fair?

    by Rita

    My in-laws always try to be fair but my brother and sister-in-law (hubby's brother) spend money like crazy, and we are savers. My in-laws gave my brother-in-law a down payment on a house and funds to…

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    Jul 8th

  • LIfe is not fair!

    by Leah

    ...and your parents can do whatever they want with their money. I am the sibling that has always struggled, but I certainly don't think that entitles me to a larger share of my mother's estate when she…

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    Jul 8th

  • equality for children

    by Debbie

    As an admirer of your views, I would like to share my thoughts on equality for our children. I have only one so it's easy for me. If I had to choose between sharing my assets with my children, I would…

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    Jul 8th

  • Fair is not always equal.

    by Tiffany

    If one child has no money and the other child or children do, you have to wonder why? If it's just because they've fallen on bad times, then I say help that child out a little more then the others. If…

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    Jul 8th

  • SPOILING DOES NO FAVORS

    by Patience

    This is one of the hardest things to deal with when, as adults, one child has, and the other has not. When my children were little, I was scrupulous about making sure that I spent the same amount of money…

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    Jul 7th

  • Don't Count On It!

    by Rose

    Just like being employed in a workplace that gives a commission or a bonus, never count on it to get you through life. Adult children to older parents should not expect anything in regards to funds, but…

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    Jul 7th

  • Children should inherit equally

    by Marie

    It's very hard on surviving children if they are not treated equally. It may foster resentment. Treating them equally is the way you can say that you love them equally, even if you can't always show it…

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    Jul 7th

  • If it isn't equal

    by Michael

    If it isn't equal, of course it's not fair. Then again neither is life, but we can never try and fully understand just exactly what life is all about. Toward the close of summer 2012, a neighbor approached…

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    Jul 7th

  • Not equal, it never is

    by Catherine

    This subject hits very close to home. We were all raised to depend on ourselves and when we asked for financial support our parents would ask, “what would you do if we were dead?” This is…

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    Jul 6th

  • Black sheep syndrome

    by Stephanie

    I am the oldest of two girls. My parents divorced when I was in the second grade. I ended up spending my childhood living with my mother. My sister stayed with my father. The relationships were not tarnished,…

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    Jul 6th

  • It is hard to measure!

    by Zoe

    I have 3 kids: 2 boys and a girl in the middle.I always try to be fair with them but I don't think I do it equally. Say for toys, I buy dolls for my daughter but Lego for my boys. Between the boys, I…

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    Jun 15th

  • A horrible legacy

    by Susan

    Unequal allocation of money towards his children during my father’s lifetime has completely destroyed the family after his death, which is now his legacy. While my brother and I lived within our…

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    May 29th


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